The reasons our marriage is volatile is not the issue. We are dealing with that. Problem I have is that she has been pushing for me to move out on a short term basis, but my gut feeling that she is actually using it as leverage for a permanent split. I have agreed to take a holiday to giver her "the time and space" she is asking for. That break for me is 4 weeks away. Since making that decision, I found some correspondence she had left out. Within it, she has arranged with her family members to visit in my absence. Her family say they will pack up my gear and get it off the property and then prohibit me from returning to my house at the agreed time. This is the corro to her, so I don't know if that is her thoughts or intent to do. They make mention of assisting in filling in the appropriate forms. We are both on the mortgage and together we do not have sufficient finances to afford two separate dwellings. This means that since I pay 100% of the mortgage from my salary (the payments are more than she earns), that I do not have enough to pay rent elsewhere. We had agreed before the marriage went sour that I would pay for the mortgage, electricity and water, the rates and the insurance. She would pay for phone and groceries. After paying for my commitment, I am left with just $400 a month of disposable income. Where do I stand ??